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Why do I fall hard or think about a girl way too much when I first meet them?

Everytime I meet a girl I like and start talking to them, I feel as though we have a connection and for a moment, can't stop thinking about them, even though I've never met them. Is there something wrong with me? For example, I met a girl at a party this weekend, and we hit it off well, i think, we were both into each other and she was literally close to me when we were talking, the body language was obvious, come to find out she just broke up with her bf of 3 years no more than 3 months ago, so i know i cant go anywhere with this, but is there something seriously wrong with me? this cant be normal for a guy to have that much attraction to someone everytime he meets someone with potential....im a good guy and have good intentions, but i believe im just in over my head with all this "relationship/love" business...any help will be great. Thanks

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1. you're young, aren't you? That happens to all my guy friends and they are all alot younger than me. And what's wrong with having attraction for someone? And you're not over your head with relationship stuff. Are you truly looking for someone to settle down with? Or are you looking for a quick fix in the sex dept? Both motives would cause you to think the way you do. Trust me, there is nothing wrong with you. Just try to have fun with it and don't read too much into it. Especially if you're still young. You're just being a guy. When the right chick comes along, trust me, you'll feel totally different when you do meet her.
2. i know exactly what you mean...i ted to do the same thing. maybe we are both being desperate?! maybe you want (or i want) somebody "special" in our lives so eagerly that every potential girl( with me boy) can become 'the one" and we get obsessed with them. what do you think?
3. first of all your meeting these girls in a bar... being a girl myself I can tell you that our actions in a bar setting is much different from who we really are... It sounds like you really want to have somebody to connect with so you right away think oh.. could this be the one... obviously you are not letting a relationship happen naturally or just take its course per se... I think you just need to let it happen....
4. Don't be a stalker though okay?....We all get liek that don't worry I get like that too But not to the point where i'm obsessing over someone...Be alone for a while dating isn't always a great thing I should know been with the same guy for almost 4yrs since I was 18 and i'm almost 22 now this Sept1st will be 4yrs for us...But I met him through a girlfriend of mine. But before I met him I NEVER obsessed over him there is no point, because at the end of the day you choose who YOU want to be with. So good luck and finding that special someone.
5. idk